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Curing a Broken Heart: Healing from Ex Loves

1 Corinthians 13:4-5

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Our past loves hold a special place in our hearts. They are woven into the fabric of our personal stories, leaving indelible marks on our lives. Whether the relationships ended amicably or in heartache, they can evoke a range of emotions when we reflect upon them. Today, let us approach our ex-loves with a Christian perspective and seek healing, growth, and wisdom.

Reflect on God's Love: As we remember our past loves, let us be reminded of the perfect love that God has for us. His love is patient, kind, and selfless. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs but extends forgiveness and grace. By meditating on God's love, we can begin to understand what true love looks like and how it should shape our relationships.

Release Resentment, Bitterness, and Regret: Holding onto resentment and bitterness towards our ex-loves only hinders our own healing and growth. Let us choose to release these negative emotions and extend forgiveness. Just as God forgives us, we are called to forgive others (Colossians 3:13). Release the burden of resentment and allow God's healing power to work in your heart.

Seek Lessons and Growth: Every relationship, regardless of its outcome, offers opportunities for personal growth and lessons learned. Reflect on the experiences, both positive and negative, and seek wisdom and insights that can shape your future relationships. Ask God to reveal the areas where you can grow and mature in love, understanding, and communication.

Embrace Gratitude: Instead of dwelling on the pain or disappointment of the past, shift your focus to gratitude. Give thanks for the lessons learned, the memories shared, and the ways in which these experiences have shaped your character. Gratitude opens our hearts to healing and helps us see the blessings that emerge from even the most challenging circumstances (1 Thessalonians 5:18).

Trust in God's Plan: Remember that God's plans for our lives are perfect, even when our relationships don't work out as we had hoped. Trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Surrender your past loves to Him and believe that He has something better in store for you, whether in relationships or in other areas of your life.


Heavenly Father, I come before You today with my past loves laid bare. I surrender all my emotions, memories, and experiences to You. Help me to release any pain, bitterness, resentment or regret that may still linger in my heart. Fill me with Your love and forgiveness, and grant me the wisdom to grow from these experiences. Teach me to trust Your plans and to embrace the love You have for me. Also please do the same for my past loves, grant them peace and healing, and let them grow in you. In Jesus' name, Amen.