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Choosing Righteous Speech: Embracing Unity and Grace

  Proverbs 16:28

A perverse person stirs up conflict, and a gossip separates close friends.

In a world filled with gossip and drama, as followers of Christ, we are called to live differently. We are called to embrace a higher standard of speech, one that reflects the love and grace of our Lord. Let us reflect on the importance of avoiding bad conversation, and instead, choosing righteous speech that promotes unity and fosters a spirit of peace.

Recognize the Destructive Power of Gossip:

Gossip is like a destructive fire that consumes relationships and spreads discord. It can harm reputations, break trust, and divide friendships. As children of God, we are called to be peacemakers and ambassadors of reconciliation. Let us recognize the power of our words and the impact they can have on others.

Guard Your Heart and Mind:

Avoiding gossip begins with guarding our hearts and minds. Fill your thoughts with things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable (Philippians 4:8). When negative or gossip-filled conversations arise, choose to redirect the conversation towards positive and uplifting topics or graciously remove yourself from such discussions.

Speak Words of Encouragement and Edification:

Instead of indulging this behaviour, let us intentionally choose to speak words of encouragement and edification. Use your words to uplift others, to bring hope, and to strengthen their faith. Seek opportunities to affirm and appreciate those around you, building them up rather than tearing them down.

Practice Discretion and Confidentiality:

Trust is the foundation of healthy relationships. Therefore, it is crucial to practice discretion and confidentiality in our conversations. Respect the privacy of others and refrain from sharing sensitive or personal information without proper consent. Let our words be a safe haven, fostering an environment of trust and authenticity.

Seek Resolution and Reconciliation:

When conflicts arise, instead of fanning the flames, let us seek resolution and reconciliation. Approach disagreements with humility and a desire for understanding. Strive to find common ground and work towards restoring relationships. In doing so, we display the love of Christ and promote unity within the body of believers.

Be a Peacemaker:

As followers of Christ, we are called to be peacemakers (Matthew 5:9). This means actively pursuing peace and unity, even in the midst of challenging situations. Choose to be a calming presence, offering words of wisdom, empathy, and grace. Seek reconciliation and strive to bridge divides, understanding that unity is a powerful testimony to the world.

Pray for Wisdom and Self-Control:

In our quest to avoid gossip, we must rely on the guidance of the Holy Spirit. Pray for wisdom in your conversations, asking God to help you discern when to speak and when to remain silent. Seek His strength to exercise self-control, especially in moments when engaging may be tempting.

Set Boundaries and Surround Yourself with Like-minded Believers:

To avoid being caught up in the drama, it is important to set healthy boundaries and surround yourself with like-minded believers who share your commitment to righteous speech. Choose friends and companions who uplift and encourage you, holding each other accountable in aligning your speech with God's standards.

Focus on Your Own Growth:

Rather than being consumed by the drama around you, focus on your own personal growth and spiritual development. Invest your time and energy in studying God's Word, cultivating a deeper relationship with Him, and serving others. When our hearts are filled with the goodness of God, these things lose their appeal.

Extend Forgiveness and Grace:

Finally, as followers of Christ, we are called to extend forgiveness and grace to others, even when they have engaged these devices against us. Just as we have received forgiveness from our Heavenly Father, let us show the same mercy to others. Choose to release bitterness, resentment, and judgment, and instead, embrace the transformative power of God's grace.


Heavenly Father, we come before You seeking Your guidance and strength to avoid drama. Help us to guard our tongues and use our words to bring life and encouragement. Fill us with Your Holy Spirit, that we may be peacemakers and ambassadors of reconciliation. Give us discernment to recognize when these unwholesome words are present and grant us the courage to speak words of truth and grace. Help us to set an example of righteousness and unity in our conversations. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.