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Self-Compassion: Internalising His Grace

Colossians 3:12

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

I would like to share a message with you about a spiritual virtue that many of us often overlook or struggle to cultivate. This virtue is self-compassion. We are swift to extend love, understanding, and forgiveness to others, but for offering the same to ourselves, we often fall short.


Understand that self-compassion is not an act of vanity or selfishness. On the contrary, it is the acknowledgement of our human frailty and the acceptance of our imperfections. It is the understanding that we are bound to make mistakes, as we are not perfect beings. It is the gentle reminder that in our weaknesses, God's strength is made perfect.


The first step in cultivating self-compassion is to understand that God loves us unconditionally. In Romans 5:8, we are reminded that "God demonstrates His own love for us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us." This profound display of love underscores the value God places on each one of us. He loves us in our entirety, with our strengths and our flaws alike.


So, knowing that God loves us just as we are, why then do we so harshly judge ourselves when we fall short of our expectations? It is high time we embraced this divine love, that we allowed it to permeate our hearts and start viewing ourselves the way God values us.


The second step in cultivating self-compassion is to practice forgiveness. Ephesians 4:32 tells us, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you". If God, in His infinite grace, has forgiven us, who are we to withhold forgiveness from ourselves?


Cultivating self-compassion also requires us to embrace our weaknesses. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, Paul shares the words of the Lord, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." We must remember that our weaknesses do not define us, but rather highlight the strength of God in us.


In the journey of cultivating self-compassion, we become more aware of our humanity and our need for God's grace. We become more patient with ourselves, more understanding of our shortcomings, and more accepting of our flaws. This is not to lift ourselves up, or to think more of ourselves than we really are but to humbly accept God’s plan for us despite our imperfections.